Coming out of isolation and into authentic relationship is the pathway to growing deeper. But coming out of isolation isn't just about the people around you - right now. We often carry with us baggage and bitterness from our past. We are sternly warned about bitterness (Hebrews 12:15, Ephesians 4:31). A couple great examples of forgiveness include Jacob and Esau. When Jacob comes home he has to face the past and face his brother. The story sets up like it is going to be a great conflict - but instead, it is a story of forgiveness. The past wounds are forgiven. NOTE: Even though they forgive and move on from the past - there is no genuine restoration. They are reconciled but continue to live quite separately. Another story of forgiveness would be Paul and John Mark. Early on in the missions trips, Paul and Barnabas take John Mark, but Mark quits (Acts 13:13). Next time, the subject of Mark coming along a second time erupts in a divisive rupture between Paul and Barnabas (Acts 15:36-41). But by the end of his life, Paul makes a plea that Mark be brought to him, for he is most useful (2 Timothy 4:11). This story is one of full forgiveness and restoration. We never know where the journey of forgiveness will take us until we walk it. Jesus is, of course, the full example of forgiveness as he prays for our forgiveness when He is on our cross.

Going Through the Motions in Relationships

Forgive

Romans 12:9-21, 1 John 1:9, Matthew 18:21-22, & Luke 23:34

How can you become a Romans 12:9-21 kind of Christian? Be formed by forgiveness.

How to be formed by forgiveness in relationships:

1) You go first. (1 John 1:9)

     a. Forgiveness of sin is the first step in a right relationship with God and with others.

2) Share what you've been given. (Matthew 18:21-22)

     Illus: The bike with no brakes.

     a. Know what forgiveness is. (vs. 21)

          Biblical Definition: lift up, let go, and leave for another place.

     b. Know who you are. (vs. 22)

3) Take it seriously. (Luke 23:34)

     a. How serious is God about forgiveness?

     b. How serious are you about forgiveness?

Final Thought: The degree of unforgiveness in your life is the degree to which you have the opportunity to grow in Christ. Be who He created you to be by taking the next step of forgiveness for yourself and others.